Identity is defined as the fact of being who a person is. Most people today identify themselves as what their profession is or their job title. However, that is not what should be our identifying factor. Family is really what makes us who we are. We do not realize it, but our family has the most significant impact on how we act and think.
How can family change us?
The involvement of family members in our lives plays a significant role in how we act. Families are there for us. They are a constant and loving support system. When someone from a family is gone, the others have to step in and help us figure out what is next.
How does family work to improve or harm familial bonds?
Families before the industrial revolution often worked together to be able to survive. If the Father was a blacksmith, his sons would be helping him and learning from him so, in time, they could take over the family business. However, after the industrial revolution, fathers were gone from the house and their families more often and for more extended periods of time. This, in turn, made the children bond more with their mothers instead of both of their parents.
As families work together to get something done, there are some good and bad things to consider. There can be harmful effects when within the family, money is involved in getting something done. This teaches children that it is just important to do things for money. It also does not teach them the same feelings of achievement that non-paying work does. Another downside is when everything is done separately. It is important when you are doing things as a family you do them TOGETHER. If you do them separately, you tend to gain more distance between you and a loved one. However, families need to make sure they do their best to create a positive and kind environment when working together. When we built our house, my Grandma came to help us and became controlling, mean, and hurtful. She was impatient, stressed people out, and called people names. This behavior helped to push my siblings and me away from having a good, healthy relationship with her. Families have to make sure they understand how they need to treat each other to foster love and happiness in their home, or it will push people apart.
Some good things that can help families to work to work together are learning to contribute, understanding the why, getting everyone involved, inviting others to participate, making it a learning experience, creating unity, and being a challenging thing. Most importantly, it is to have fun! When my family built a house, it was extremely hard work. We did almost everything ourselves: from framing walls to putting in windows and pulling wires for electrical. It would have been a boring experience for my siblings and me if we had not found a way to make it fun. We played tik-tak-toe on the framing, played crazy music, had dance parties, and even played board games on the deck when we had a break. We made an impression on the house and, in turn, let it make an impression on us. We made the otherwise challenging experience fun and let it bring us closer together as a family. Sure, there were difficult times, and it got really cold, but we persevered and turned work into play. Our family is not perfect, and because of that, we had times when we hated going to work and other times when we refused to do any work. However, in the end, we figured it out and were able to find ways to keep us the most attracted.
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